Eulogy

This is the eulogy I wrote for my Papaw, Tom Lovingood, who passed away on 10/08/2012.  I wanted to share it with my writing world, because he is so much the reason I am who I am.  I ache for the day I can see him again ~

The dictionary definition of a strong person is, “one of great moral power, being especially able, competent, and courageous.”

These attributes were visible on Tom Lovingood as plainly as the Carolina hat, that always doted the American flag, sat on his head. His strength was so present, I could almost smell it float into the room alongside his Old Spice aftershave. He wore it everyday, and couldn’t help but to spill it onto others.

The Lovingood’s believe in strength because we were bred to do so. We believe in honesty, patriotism, and guts. We believe in grit, imperfection, and hard work. We believe in “I love you” at the end of phone calls, and remembering people’s birthdays. We believe in visiting elderly people who have no one else, picking the runt of litters, and telling the truth even when it’s as ugly as the darkest part of the night.

We do not believe in laughing at others, taking the path of least resistance, or letting people go hungry. We do not believe in humoring people, keeping quiet when we should speak, or speaking when we should remain quiet. We do not believe in strangers, or holding grudges. We do not believe in the word, “hate”.

Of all the things we believe, or do not believe, above all, we believe the things Tom, Dad, Papaw, or Friend taught us. He taught us how to love the way he did, but cautioned us to keep our tempers milder than his. He taught us he wasn’t perfect, but that he told it like it was. He taught us how to be real, and how to remember to check our own actions before someone else’s. He taught us to be people here for other people. He taught us how to live, because he knew how to love.

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6 thoughts on “Eulogy

  1. Jennifer Hensley says:

    That was an awsome tribute to your papaw …… I am proud that he taught you how to live and love the greatest gifts of life and i am proud to have been blessed by him also ….. even when we were apart i knew that i was apart of his heart also because he was apart of mine….. I love you and I loved papaw also. Luv you mom

  2. Jordan Marquez says:

    This is a beautiful eulogy. I can understand your feeling of loss…when my grandfather died this year, I was devastated. I decided to write a blog about him and it made the experience far easier, because writing the blog made me remember him so freshly that, if he were wearing Old Spice like your grandfather did, I would have smelled it like he was alive again, sitting right next to me. If you have a chance read my blog at http://jordanmarquez.wordpress.com/2012/06/18/a-whistling-man/. Maybe it will help remind you of all the wonderful things your grandfather did in your life. Again, thanks for the fantastic read. I hope you are coping well…

    -Jordan

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